It’s a girl!

Whaddya mean "it's pink"?!

Last weekend started out great with an impromptu invite for wine and snacks with my brother and sister-in-law Friday night. The sneaky pair had gone to their gender scan appointment earlier in the day, unbeknownst to us, and had a little party to reveal the gender. My niece got to pop a balloon full of confetti, and static electricity helped make it quite a show! Tiny bits of pink tissue paper shot all over the place and fluttered down on the dog and baby boys (who we forgot to shelter from the big noise. Oops!)

On Saturday morning I sorted 8 months’ worth of baby clothes. I pulled out the super boyish stuff and put it into 3 piles: sell at the consignment sale, keep for later, and donate. Surprisingly, I ended up with quite a big box for the new baby, including some cute onesies that made people think Felix was a girl. Later that day I scored a brand new Boppy for them for $3. I’m pretty sure the folks at Goodwill had no idea what it was.

Almost the day Felix was born, people started asking if I think I’ll adopt again. I hadn’t even thought about it. I suppose I will – why not? And that begs the gender question. I’ve gone back and forth on whether I’d request a girl or not. It would exclude me from applying for any grants and would even disqualify me from working with some agencies. Not to mention the wait time would almost certainly be years, since fewer girls are placed than boys and I already have a kid. You don’t get to choose gender during pregnancy, so is it fair for me to decide whether Felix gets a brother or a sister? And not to flatter myself, but what if a birth mom expecting a boy is looking for someone just like me? It would be sad if she never knew I existed.

This is far down the road because I have some other goals before then. The big one (aside from getting my adoption credit refund without an audit) is to prepare my home for sale or rental next year. I’m not looking forward to repairing under the kitchen sink…there was a disposal leak for a while that warped all the wood, and one year we had a mouse living under that warped wood. My skin crawls thinking about what’s under there! I would be more than happy to work overtime and pay top dollar for someone else to do that. 

Anyway, back to last weekend. Felix got his first real haircut and later discovered cat food. He shoves kibbles in his mouth two handfuls at a time if I don't watch him like a hawk!

Before haircut.

After - he was getting sleepy.

 

He army crawls straight to the dish every time I feed the cats.

Champion Eater, Marathon Sleeper

Felix stopped getting excited about formula around 5 1/2 months old and wasn't eating enough during the day, so I started him on solids a smidge early. The first few feedings, it was hilarious watching him try to nurse the food off the spoon.

Eventually he got the hang of it and I added fast-dissolving rice crackers and puffs to his diet. The look on his face was priceless! Any time we try a new food or texture, in fact, he makes the funniest most horrified faces before going in for another bite.

Where the heck...? (Cracker stuck to side of chair.)

Quite a few moms in my online group complain that their babies won't eat anything and "hate" baby food, but I wonder how many times they've tried? I've noticed with lots of flavors, Felix will tolerate it the first time and love it by the second or third time.

His menu has expanded greatly over the past few months, and that's a big relief considering I plan on feeding him a vegetarian diet. He gets fruit at daycare and a veggie at night, and he even likes the classically "icky" foods like spinach and lentils. He'd chug mango, squash and green beans if you let him.

Tonight we tried a little hard boiled egg for the first time, and Felix didn't disappoint. Every bite was sheer repulsion, but he kept eating.

So awful, yet so delicious.

I'm also happy to report his sleeping has improved greatly since I started the half-water/half-formula trick. About 50% of the time he still wakes at night, but I hand him a 3 oz. mostly-water bottle in the dark and he goes back to sleep. He's even been sleeping in till 9:30 or 10 on the weekends. Perhaps helping is the fact that I realized he may have been waking up cold (Mother of the Year, I am) and started putting him in a fleece sleep sack instead of cotton footie pajamas.

And the last bit of news is that Felix is 20 lbs. and his feet hang over the edge of his baby car seat, so I ordered a larger convertible seat that should arrive next week. Little Hoots will go to little cousin this summer!

Do I look like an infant to you?

Fun with Real Estate

When I bought my townhouse in 2008, I had just been laid off, Bush had just authorized the first bailout and we all figured it was "the bottom." I got a good deal on a short sale in a central location. It was my goal to live here 5 years before moving on and keeping this as a rental property.

Despite having an ugly garage in front, it's a cute little place inside with plenty of room for us right now. I could really use a third bedroom, front yard and fenced back yard for the dog, though. And I'm tired of paying $105 HOA fees and $45 mortgage insurance each month.

Needless to say, fall of 2008 wasn't the bottom and my home has lost value since then (less than $10k, thankfully). But the five-year mark is fast approaching and I find myself brainstorming exit strategies.

So here are my options for moving on. Anyone with experience in this area is welcome to chime in!

1. Try to sell this year, making up any difference with savings or a personal loan. Or, pay extra each month and sell in a year to break even. Down payment for my next place would have to come from savings.

2. Move into a rental and rent this place to someone else for two years. This would allow me to build rental history, which would be required before I could be approved for another mortgage. This way I could keep the place as a rental, but the drawbacks are obvious: moving twice in 2 years, dealing with renters, finding an affordable, nice place that allows pets without outrageous deposits.

3. Wait until I make enough money to qualify for 2 mortgages. This would take a while and would require a decent amount of freelance work and substantial savings.

4. Wait until the market improves enough that I could sell my place and come out ahead. Hopefully interest rates would still be reasonable enough that I'd be able to move into something bigger. 

"Home Sweet Home" page from my parent profile.

None of these options is screaming "pick me, pick me!", but I still need a plan. And I'm sort of stubborn against the idea of selling unless it's the only way out. The whole reason I settled for a townhouse in '08 was because it would make a great investment property later.

Baby Product Reviews

Over the past nearly 8 months I’ve learned a lot about baby products: What’s useful, what’s not, and why I need what I swore I’d never use. I’ll break them down into three categories.

Can’t Live Without

Bouncy chair that vibrates – Felix napped in his bouncy chair from the day he was born and still enjoys sitting in it and playing with the toy bar while I’m in the shower. The batteries died a long time ago, but he doesn’t mind.

Doorway jumper – He bounces all morning while I get ready for work. Perfect for the in-between months when they don’t want to lie down all the time, but can’t walk yet, especially if you need to keep them in one area.

Boppy “nursing” pillow – Felix slept swaddled on the pillow when he was really tiny, I used it for arm support while feeding him, we used it when he was learning to sit on his own, and he loves laying in it while feeding himself a bottle now. 

Tags – Silky tags, Velcro tags, looped tags or single-ply. Doesn’t matter, Felix loves to chomp them all. It’s one of the ways he soothes himself to fall asleep. We have a Taggies blanket that’s pretty cool.

Travel swing – We used ours daily until recently, and I often took it friends’ houses and events when he was really young. It easily fit in the trunk of my car and included lights, toys and music like the big swings.

Surprisingly Unhelpful

Teething rings – Felix has had teething symptoms for months, but he’s never enjoyed chewing on teething toys.

Big fancy swing – Took up too much space in the living room and didn’t do anything better than the travel version.

Diaper Genie – it just doesn’t hold enough diapers. It’s easier to have a big $4 garbage can for the wet ones and seal off the stinky ones before tossing them in (or take them outside.)

Binkies – Felix has never been interested in pacifiers, regardless of his age or mood. Hungry, sick, bored, waking up at night, doesn’t matter. He doesn’t want a binkie.

Bassinet – He wouldn’t sleep in his bassinet until he was 5 months old and he's almost outgrown it already. As a tiny boy, he much preferred his Rock N Play sleeper, which holds him at a slight incline.

Bumbo chair – He always looked so uncomfortable in Bumbos and didn’t seem to really enjoy them, so I’m glad we never bought one.

Can’t Believe I Bought It

Stroller with Ginormous Wheels – Absolutely necessary almost all the time. Any event on grass, snow, dirt, gravel or brick (downtown streets, for example) simply can’t be navigated with your standard “travel system” stroller. I never understood why moms pushed around the giant joggers…now I get it. I still have a small umbrella stroller that comes in handy, but the jogger is usually ideal.

Dinner by candle light before escaping his chair.

Restaurant high chair cover – I always thought the moms with chair covers were uptight germophobes. That’s until Felix slid out of his restaurant high chair and got wedged in the leg hole. It took three adults, some body part maneuvering and a good belly squeeze to dump him out onto the restaurant floor. He was shaken but okay. What surprised me is how fast it happened! He’d been buckled in and sitting fine all night, then suddenly I noticed he was backwards, halfway out and stuck.

Working Parent Rant

Boy am I annoyed by the lack of fitness classes for moms.

The only stroller-friendly class meets weekdays at 9 am. The gym daycare closes too early during the week and has very limited weekend hours. I can't afford the Y and their daycare closes at 6 anyway. I looked into short-term fitness classes through community ed, but they aren't stroller friendly, don't offer daycare, and/or the daycare facility is closed before evening classes start.

This all feeds into the idea that women should not work. They should be at home making babies, only interested in scheduling activities for themselves between 9 am - 5 pm. When hubby isn't at work, you want to be available for him! What if he needs something?

Okay I'm not really that bitter, but in a city this size, the options are a joke. I inquired about starting a stroller-friendly franchise of my own, and the online form wanted to know if my net worth was more than $100,000, and do I have more than $25,000 in liquid assets?

It doesn't help we lost half of our summer to red-warning air quality thanks to forest fires, and after those cleared up, there was a cougar/cougars roaming our parks and mauling animals and people were advised to avoid the areas, especially with dogs. I wasn't about to venture out in the cool fall evenings with a baby and a dog.

Now it is 6 degrees outside and dark by the time I get home from work. So the old "jog around the block" isn't even an option.

Ready to run, mom!

Arrggghhh...can you tell I'm ready for spring? I think Felix is, too.